How Anxiety and Depression Affects Relationships

Anxiety and depression destroy relationships because they create a problem-causing cycle among two people trying to be together meaningfully. The cycle continues until anxiety and depression destroy the relationship. This isn’t guaranteed, however. You can do things to help your mental health and your relationship.

How Anxiety and Depression Affects Relationships

One of the biggest contributing factors to the cycle of depression, anxiety and romantic relationship distress is perspective. How you see and interpret people and situations significantly impacts your relationship. One of the problems with depression and anxiety is that they overshadow and darken perspectives. In a relationship, this skewed perception can do quite a bit of harm, such as:

• warping thoughts and making negative thinking patterns the go-to way of interpreting the relationship and partner

• creating negative emotions about problems magnified by anxiety or depression

• causing hurtful misunderstandings and misinterpretation of words, body language, and behaviors

• increasing negative beliefs, including dissatisfaction with each other and the relationship

How to Help Relationships Being Destroyed by Depression and Anxiety

Anxiety, depression, and relationships move up and down together. While this can be problematic when they spiral downward into the deep chasm that has formed in your relationship, this linked movement presents an excellent opportunity to help and heal.

Remember the negative cycle of depression, anxiety, and relationship dissatisfaction and distress? You can turn that same cycle into a positive one. By working, even in little ways, on one area, you simultaneously help the others. When you and your partner do things to decrease anxiety or depression, they both improve.

As these mental health struggles lose power bit by bit, your perception about your relationship shifts. You see it more positively. Then that healthier relationship helps anxiety and depression.

One of the most important ways to help depression, anxiety, and your relationship is for you and your partner to intentionally reconnect with each other.

• Text each other (but not excessively or out of suspiciousness).

• Write notes and leave them where the other will see.

• Resume physical closeness, starting with holding hands, then cuddling, and increasing from there.

Other things that can help your relationship and each other:

• Learn about depression and anxiety to increase understanding and avoid taking things personally

• Practice self-care, whether it’s you or your partner who has depression or anxiety

• Communicate with each other, sharing what this is like for you and discovering how to support each other

Anxiety and depression affect relationships, threatening to destroy them. You and your partner can work together to prevent that from happening and to boost each other’s mental health.